Feeling Lost

Feeling Lost
Life can be full of surprises as I am sure you know.  Sometimes, events take place, and we are left with regret of how we have handled ourselves during that time or we have experienced an outcome that was unexpected. 

Perhaps there have been a lot of changes that have taken place and you are left feeling insecure, fearful, or anxious. 

By nature, we are creatures of habit and therefore, having constants in our lives, helps us to feel a sense of security, safe, grounded.  When those constants change, we may have a sense of urgency to sort things out or find purpose or meaning.

Now what?  Where do you go from here?  So much may have taken place and you may not know where or how to start making change?

The good news is, there is always something we can do and somewhere we can go.
Let’s look at what you can do to help yourself.

• Finding out what is important to you.  What do you value? (Perhaps it is a good partner, a different job, your current home)

 

• Asking yourself, where it is you want to be instead?  The stronger your description of the direction you want to go in, the more likely you are to start moving in that direction and this increases your motivation to do so. 

 

• Be consistent in taking steps towards your desired direction.

 

• Try a different approach – Albert Einstein once said, ‘Insanity is, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.’

 
Sometimes we need to take the time to broaden our view on what our preferred future looks like.  (Talk to friends, helplines, family, do research).

During this time, we can choose to focus on all the strengths and abilities and traits we have, that will enable us to get there.

If you struggle with this, ask your close friends and family to remind you of these amazing traits and abilities.  And YES, we all have them, even if we do not feel we are amazing or strong at this time!

Remember we can look at what we once valued and challenge ourselves by asking if that is still of value to us and maybe we need to do a bit of an adjustment.  
Re-evaluating what is important to us can be necessary in making decisions or steering us in the direction we want to go.

There is no doubt, that when you are in a place of overwhelm, it can be very scary.  When things have been a certain way for a long period of time and change in a way you are not used to or do not recognise can be difficult and you may not know where to start.

I would like to encourage you to start with one thing that is working for you and try to build on that.  You may experience a ‘relapse’ of sorts, but that is when you can hold onto your description of your preferred future as your ‘North Star’ or your ‘Guiding Light’.   
​You are the owner of your life story and get to write the next chapter the way you want to. 
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You may be required to be a little braver, a little more adventurous or a little more observant, but whatever it is that you need to build on, be kind to yourself, it can take time to process, to heal.

Don’t forget to look around you, for people and resources, that may be available to help you.  If you cannot think of anyone that may be able to help you, then ask yourself this question, how would you help a friend or family member if they were in your situation?  What would you encourage them to have a go at or who to connect with. 
There will always be a direction that you would prefer to move towards.

Quote by T.Harv Eker ‘One step in the right direction is better than a hundred years of thinking about it.’

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