Just like that!

​Just Like That!
​Have you ever experienced a time in your life when it feels like the rug you were standing on, is pulled from under you?

Many times, I have felt this, and every time, the shock is very real.
Time seems to stand still and you cannot quite believe what you just heard.

Then with that comes the emotional tailspin, the pain, the shock, the humiliation, the anger, the concern, the panic just to name a few.

What do we do with this? We all react differently.
Some might,

🔵Run and tell everyone they can about the news.

🔵Pretend it didn’t happen. Curl up into a ball and do nothing?

🔵Share it with their closest person (partner, sister, friend, mother, father etc)

For me, I go quiet. I need processing time, so I take it. I keep the information really close so I can process it first without the influence of other opinions.

I listen to the one person I have shared this with and try to see it from a different perspective.
Once I am in a calmer space having ‘come down’ from the initial shock, I then go into action. Gather knowledge, prepare for conversations and keep checking in with myself.

There is no right or wrong way to deal with unexpected news, however it is ‘healthy’ to make sure you are able to regulate your emotions firstly, recognise the support you may need, the break you may need to take, the knowledge you may need to gain in order to work through it. Weighing up the negative and positive outcomes of the bad news so you can get a realistic picture of just how bad it is and what ‘good’ you can focus on.

Eventually I might take it to my 'bookclub' ladies!! By then the emotions are regulated and it is more of just a story to tell of the rollercoaster ride of life.

What do you do when a moment like this comes?
What have your experiences been and how do you handle these?